Accepting The Unacceptable

Accepting The Unacceptable

It has become almost something of a cliche in society nowadays to use the adage that you cannot cope with a problem unless you first admit it. Not that this is a new or a novel idea, but it is probably true that this sentiment has become much more powerful and widespread owing to the […]

The Power of Secrets

The Power of Secrets

There are a number of slogans and sayings that get chucked around in health circles, which some people find really helpful, and other people find both helpful and irritating, depending upon their mood. One of the most common sayings, although not an actual slogan, is telling people directly or indirectly that they are as sick […]

Gratitude As A Mood Changer

Gratitude As A Mood Changer

Quite often in an AA meeting or similar, you will hear someone announce themselves as my name is so-and-so and I’m grateful alcoholic/ addict, or I’m a grateful recovering alcoholic/addict. Equally, you are quite likely to hear someone say at a meeting something along the lines of a grateful alcoholic will never drink. There is […]

How Loving Is Tough Love ?

How Loving Is Tough Love ?

Tough love is one of those expressions that has crept into the vocabulary of mental health and 12 step recovery in recent years. It sort of implies that an action or directive is being given or taken which may on the surface seem a bit tough, but is being done from a place of love, […]

Being Vulnerable Is Not Being Emotionally Weak

Being Vulnerable Is Not Being Emotionally Weak

People quite often like to categorise emotions as being good or bad, with emotions such as anger and self-pity been thought of as bad or weak . Emotions such as gratitude and a positive outlook are thought of as good healthy emotional states. Truth is that judgement of any emotional state is of itself counter […]

What Does it Mean to Respect Boundaries?

What Does it Mean to Respect Boundaries?

Quite a simple question in many ways, but one that many people struggle with, both in terms of trying to set boundaries of their own, and dealing with other people who don’t respect, or don’t seem ableĀ  to respect anyone else’s boundaries at all. The issue of boundaries is not unique to people in 12-step […]